Sept 9, 2018 Blog/Newsletter... Should I Have Said NO?

Published by: janean strong on 09-09-2018

Should I have said NO?

I recently have come across a couple of situations where I said yes and
perhaps I shouldn’t have. Sometimes it really is hard to know in the
moment. One was a seminar I was invited to. I wasn’t terribly keen on going, but it sounded like it could be fun and I would meet some new and interesting people. Maybe make some connections for my podcast.
Another friend was asked to go and she was pretty much in the same boat. Not super keen but if I would go she would go and maybe she would make some good connections too.
I was also asked if I would like to help edit the audio and text of a course I
am very familiar with. Sounded like it would be fun. Earn a little extra
money and reconnect with people I care about. Since reconnection has
been a theme for me I said yes.

Neither ended up working out very well.

What was I missing? I really feel it is important to keep agreements.
And I have been pondering why both of these didn’t work out.
So... the guilt starts creeping in...
I also do not like to let people down!

Road blocks kept appearing in my attempts to do the editing. I even lost
hours of work. I had been pondering if maybe this wasn’t the best idea and
feeling like I was being a pain in the ass as the procedures that were set up
kept confusing me. I finally got it all straightened out and then lost the main
document That I had finally finished. WTF!

As I started to grasp all that it would take in logistics, energy and finances I
began to wonder if the seminar was a good idea. Travel is kind of a pain
from where I am living. Hours of driving to the airport and having to stay
overnight before and after the trip.

And then I was told about a healing training and a something perked up inside me. Hmmm I should look into this.
OK so which one... seminar or training.
I had to be honest with myself ....the healing training is more ‘me’. It’s in alignment with so much that I have done in my life.
Perhaps if I had not signed up for the seminar I wouldn’t have been open to
the healing training. We just don’t know!
And as for the editing gig... I probably should have said how honoured I
was to be considered and I don’t have the time right now to make that kind
of commitment.
Sometimes it is challenging to turn down opportunities and sometimes we
just have to learn from our ‘failures’.

I still forget to do what I have coached many clients and friends to do.... when first asked, don’t say yes or no...say “give me some time to think about that and
I will get back to you”. Then you have time to separate yourself from the
situation and really consider if you have the time, resources and desire to
say yes with confidence.
At least I feel that I handled it all in integrity!

Addendum:I was able to find the document that I had lost and hand it in. I am grateful (gratitude) that all the work I had put in was not lost and the project ended up on a positive note!

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Awakening | Big Mind, Big Heart w/ Genpo Roshi
Dennis Paul Merzel, also known as Genpo Roshi, is a Zen teacher and Priest in both the Soto and Rinzai schools of Zen Buddhism, Abbot of Kanzeon Inc. since 1988, and creator of the Big Mind Process in 1999. Since his initial awakening in 1971 his purpose and his passion have remained the same: to assist others to realize their true nature and to continuously deepen his own practice as well as assisting others in carefully reflecting on this life and clarifying the Way.
In 1999 Roshi created the Big Mind Process™, also known as Big Mind/Big Heart, which philosopher Ken Wilber has called “arguably the most important and original discovery in the last two centuries of Buddhism.” It has broadened and enriched not only the teaching of Zen but spiritual practices in other traditions as well, enabling thousands of people from all walks of life and religious backgrounds to have an awakening with little or no prior consciousness study. Roshi continues to train people to bring the Big Mind process and Big Heart Zen out into the world, and remains deeply committed to their ongoing evolution.

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Self limiting beliefs rob us of joy and create needless suffering

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Gary shares his journey from victim hood to empowerment. Along the way he met Don Miguel Ruiz who was guided to share the teachings of his ancestral ancient Toltec wisdom. Through Don Miguel, Gary learned how ‘human domestication’ shapes our beliefs and who we think we are. Eventually Gary took this knowledge and created his own Self Mastery Program. He coaches clients one on one and teaches workshops. You can find his book MindWorks on Amazon.

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Your Healthy Yummy Recipe

Portobello Mushroom Stroganoff

4 servings

3 tablespoons butter
1 large onion, chopped
3/4 pound portobello mushrooms, sliced
3 cloves of garlic
1 1/2 cups chicken or vegetable broth or 1/2 C wine & 1 C Broth
1/2 T Soy Sauce and 4 dashes Worcestershire
1 1/2 cups sour cream
3 tablespoons flour
1/4 cup chopped fresh parsley
8 ounces egg noodles

Bring a large pot of lightly salted water to a boil. Add egg noodles, and cook until al dente, about 7 minutes. Remove from heat, drain, and set aside.
At the same time, melt butter in a large skillet over medium heat. Add onion, and cook, stirring until softened. Turn the heat up to medium-high, and add sliced mushrooms and garlic. Cook until the mushrooms are limp and browned. Set aside.
In the same skillet, stir in broth (wine), soy and Worcestershire and scrape the bottom of the pan. Bring to a boil, and cook until the mixture has reduced by 1/3. Reduce heat to low, and return the mushrooms and onion to the skillet.
Remove the pan from the heat, stir together the sour cream and flour; then blend into the mushrooms. Return the skillet to the burner, and continue cooking over low heat, just until the sauce thickens. Stir in the parsley, and season to taste with salt and pepper. Serve over cooked egg noodles.

Keywords: Zen Buddhism, Genpo Roshi, Meditation, Big Mind Big Heart, Baja, FOur Agreements

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